By Sarah Hadgkiss, founder, Tea With Me
Beauty and style are two different things, but people often get them confused. A beautiful person may not have style, but style is always beautiful. In this article, we will look at some advice and tips on how to develop style.
The co-founder of luxe skin-care line Caudalie Mathilde Thomas, says that beauty is” something that gives you pleasure, because when you look good, you feel good”. Beauty is different for different people. What some find beautiful, others may not. In that sense, beauty is very subjective. That’s the essence of the saying “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. But the truth is there really is beauty in everything, if you know how and where to look.
Style, on the other hand, is more about presence than looks, style is about who you are, how you portray that, how comfortable you are and your connection to yourself. Style is about experience, reputation, and character. Style is an expression of individuality, and lives long after beauty has passed.
Being happy never goes out of style: The greatest tool in your search for style is your own personal demeanour. How you feel, cuts through the facade of fashion, and either portrays you as stylish, or leaves you behind. People sense a person that is in tune with themselves; someone that works on being happy. A happy soul is always going to be one of the most stylish people you are ever likely to meet. The Portuguese call it “Feliz Alma”. A genuinely happy character is always going to be able to be more stylish than one who isn’t.
Style is an expression of your individuality: Style is all about you, you, you. It is about who YOU are. It is about what YOU like, and it is about what YOU want to say to the world. It is about your spirit, your character and your existence, brought to like through your use of things. Some of the most stylish icons of all time were successful because they chose to use style as an expression of their own individuality. When style is not individualised, it becomes fashion. And remember, fashion isn’t style. Fashion is about what is hot right now, but style never goes out of fashion.
Style is simple, style is subtle: Style doesn’t have to be complex, or loud. Some artists choose it to be, but it doesn’t have to be. In fact the less you have, the more likely you are to be stylish. You don’t have to be rich to be stylish, but you do have to be able to use simplicity, and subtlety.
Style evolves over time: While some articles never go out of style (Coco Chanel’s invention, the Chanel jacket for example, is nearing the century milestone), style does evolve over time. From Louis XIV, who is widely regarded as the first icon of style, to Audrey Hepburn, to the Beckham’s, style evolves, as character and time evolves. Be aware of who you are, and who you are becoming, and tailor your style to suit, and you will never lose that sense of style.
Style is about confidence: Above all, style is about you telling the world who YOU are, and this takes confidence. It takes strength to stand up and tell the world how you want it to see you. Humans are complex beings, and when you develop style, you are telling the world who you are, in a simple way, who you are. You are claiming your place in the world, and influencing others while you do so, which brings us to our last tip:
Style is infectious: People have a great sense of recognising style. When someone is stylish, they have a strong positive impact on the world – whether it’s just their immediate social circle, or if they are influential enough, the entire world. And depending on who they are, they can quickly influence fashion, thinking, and even politics and governments through their sense of style. Style is a powerful reflection of personal power, and can be used to great degrees, because it is infectious. People are drawn to it.
Style is a constant, beauty fades, and fashion changes. Work on being happy, be comfortable with who you are, be simple but subtle, learn to love change, and recognise your personal power, and you, too, will always be stylish.